Malin Quintern
Therapeutic Solutions
Online Counselling & Coaching for very normal people.
For Individuals & Couples.
About you
(yes, you!)
You are someone who actually has your shit together.
You are busy, you work, you have goals, you try to look after yourself.
You often ask yourself: 'What the hell am I doing with my life?' You have worked hard and you are ambitious, but you’re wondering what it was all for. People tell you that you 'have it all together' and you appear as though you do, but it feels like everything could fall apart at any moment.
You feel pressure to constantly excel but you feel uninspired. You like to be in control, but most of the time you don’t feel in control at all.
You just want to feel good enough. Oh, and you also would like your partner to do more of some things and less of others. And then there are people in your life you’d like to say no to more often, stand up for yourself, worry less.
You want to feel a little different, you’d like to put yourself higher on your priority list, but it just seems impossible. You really want to be more present, authentic, and connected in your relationships.
Your goal is to feel successful and happier, but you can’t seem to get there.
So you are thinking about counselling or coaching because you feel like you are struggling but you don’t want to talk about any childhood issues or your parents or family stuff.
You just want some strategies, right?
Look, I understand it. Counselling and Coaching are weird concepts - and not the same as choosing a good cardiologist, who you might see once a year and will never know about your massive insecurity. You are expected to admit that there is something not right in your life, realise you have problems AND need to deal with them... ugh... and then take them to a complete stranger.
Counselling and Coaching are unique types of support and connection. Seeing someone like me is not a sign that you've failed. It's about being how you want to be, learning, becoming more intentional, improving your strategies.
And it's okay to keep parts of yourself to yourself.
But please know that I don't think you're crazy. I just don't. You're normal and I am happy to work with you.
I don't think you're a total mess, broken or incomplete.
And I don't think you're a terrible person.
I think you're human and you are seeking support to be better. Reaching out to a therapist is challenging and it seems pretty brave to me!!
More about Counselling or Coaching
About me
I am real, I am approachable and I swear a lot. And I don't think therapy or coaching should be painful, never-ending experiences. You will not hear me talking about ‘your journey’ or ‘compassionate presence’ and I am not a ‘sit and nod’ therapist.
I have been through a few lengthy and specific trainings to be in this role, I have worked in this field for many years in different areas, but that does not make me any better than you or the ‘expert’ of your life. I will not decide what's right for you: You are the expert of your life, I am just trained to support you in the change you’re seeking.
And I don’t think that this changing process has to be a humour-free, clinical or sterile process. I laugh, I curse and you will always know you are with a real human.
Judgment has no place in my understanding of Counselling or Coaching. I believe that most people worry about whether they are ‘normal’, but I think it’s time to believe that we are all different and unique and that’s what makes each of us wonderful.
If you are interested in the clinical stuff: I practice from a systemic, solution-focused standpoint, and I pull primarily from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy with some Gestalt Therapy thrown in. Feel free to ask more questions about this, if you like.
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Self compassion and being less hard on yourself
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People pleasing and being the ‘fixer’
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Lack of meaning in your work, relationships, life
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Perfectionism
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The everyday difficulties that hold you back
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Balancing work and private life
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Voicing your opinion, being more confident